The Real Reason We Don’t Know How To Pray For Our Families
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What do you do when you don’t know what to pray? I LOVE that their are tons of prayer prompts on Pinterest from Christian bloggers, plus some fantastic books out there about prayer. For example, *Fervent by Priscilla Shirer turns women into prayer warriors as they learn how to use the Scriptures to create their own prayer prompts and “War Rooms.” Then there are the classic Stormie Omartian books — including *The Power of a Praying Wife — which is like having prayer prompts in a devotional in a book. When you don’t know what to pray, there are plenty of resources to help you know what to say.
The Prayer Struggle
Prayer prompts are extremely useful for giving ideas, but I have to be honest… Sometimes when I find prayer printables online, I use them all in one sitting or use one and forget to use the rest of them the following days.
Honestly, I read the Power of a Praying Wife in two weeks (even though it’s broken up into 40 once-a-day segments) because I borrowed it from the library (#OnABudget) and I was desperate for prayer strategies for my marriage. I loved Fervent (it was like a warcry to fight my enemy through prayer) but I never took the time to make the prayer cards or a war room… Don’t judge me!
I have found that it’s easier to just have a conversation with God. I certainly feel less guilty using my own words than I do trying to commit to prompts and forgetting to use them… #PerfectionistProblems
Making Prayer Permanent
So why does it seem that Christian women are seeking inspiration about what to say to God? Why does it seem like Christian women don’t know how to pray for our kids and our spouses? Or rather — why are Christian women not confident in our prayers for our families?
I think that not knowing what to pray is not a content issue, it’s a consistency issue.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with prayer prompts or getting inspiration from them. (Again, I love them!) There is nothing wrong with reading books that teach us how to pray. (LOVE them!) But consider this: Jesus gave us ONE prayer prompt, the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13),
“Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10 your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.”
Have you ever considered why Jesus didn’t give us super specific prayers or even Scriptures for when we’re feeling anxious or how to pray over our cranky newborns or how to pray when we need to feel God’s love? Well, for one, when we read God’s Word we find the hope that we need and the promises to hold onto, but I think a big part of it is the more often we spend time with God the more we would know Him and know how to talk to Him about everything and anything.
If we prayed more regularly, we would know how to pray for our families.
If we read the more Bible regularly, we would know what promises to hold God accountable to.
If we spent daily, consistent time with God, we would desire Him and His will and know what to ask Him. We would see our prayers answered.
I love how rapper Lecrae often says that when it comes to spending time with God “quantity will produce quality.”
The more we pray, the more we know how to pray.
Pray Every Day
Let’s commit to praying for our families (and everything else) every day for a specific length of time — just to test and see if it makes a difference. If a prayer prompt or list of Scriptures would help you, use them. If a book would help you, use it. The key to becoming a prayer warrior is not necessarily what you pray, but how often.
Imagine what would happen if you just intentionally prayed the Lord’s Prayer, aka Jesus’ prayer prompt, every day for the next month Or the next 21, to “make it a habit.” Or just the next week. I bet we would look back and see that God did so much more with our small consistent moments over time than we may have seen in a few big ones.
Your turn: What are some “prayer strategies” that you have used or plan to use, if any? Also, how can I pray for you? ⭐️
Hey sis! I’m Imani, the Jesus-loving pastor’s wife & toddler mom who is writing here to help you “be a blessing” in your day-to-day life. Also, I’m probably dancing to Michael Jackson right now.